Tantra for couples
My experience brought me to certain ideas. Maybe they are different from how other people teach Tantra or Tantric sex. Maybe not. Nevertheless, please do not associate my work with the work of others. Tantra is not dogma. It is method. Method could be very much influenced by personality of the teacher. And you know this. Compare with the of learning languages. You can spend years listening to one course and never speak the language and you can take another book or CD and after a short period of time you feel, wow, you understand…
You can read about my method below. My approach is very artistic. I am sorry, but I do not make it fun! I consider sexuality as a very serious thing, requiring concentration, total commitment, creativity and a loving heart. It is like playing piece of classical music. It is no fun in there, but it is so beautiful, so breathtaking… Also believe: your age has no difference. The older you are the deeper you can understand Tantra, the more precious your sexuality becomes.
What I do not do is playing games in Shiva-Shakti, rituals, "tantric bathing with roses" est. - services advertised by "tantricas". I do not belong to any of these groups and comunities. What I teach is how to make your sexual life sustainable and fulfiling. I teach how to connect to each other by senses and energies, how to build up the sense of trust, total control, commitement and unity, how to encrease your sexual potential and make your lovemaking healing, recharging and creative.
1. Book the private consultation with me to clarify what your problems are and what could be the best way of solving them.
You both have had a long life behind you, you have absorbed and stored into your mind and into your body negative experiences. Sexuality has a very fragile nature. If sexual life is terminated it is not easy to restore it. Usually this is the woman who escapes any physical contact. Why? I have given my suggestions in my articles.
It is clear that if one partner, who is more aware of sexuality, tries to persuade another one to “break the ice”, the other partner feels forced into it. It takes a real effort to understand that your own sexuality is your engine of life and your light of happiness. The barrier of denial is strong but it is possible to get through it by just establishing the positive thoughts about the sexual pleasure and love which was experienced in the past.
I have a wide experience as a woman. I have been in sexual contact with many men, not for fun, but for research. I tried to understand why and where a man and a woman go wrong with sexuality to grow apart when in the first place they were passionate about lovemaking. My knowledge did not come from books or lectures, or workshops on Tantra. That knowledge can only come from the body, from the senses and from the loving heart.
Fees - £100/h- 2 hours min
2. Book the Tantric sessions to learn tantric sex
Tantric sessions would not work for couples who have a lot of psychological issues about their relationship in general, which upset sexuality a great deal. Those couple need professional relationship therapy first, including my consultation on sexuality matters. Tantric sessions are meant for loving and caring couples who are free and relaxed with their bodies and who want to increase the potential of the sexual energy exchange and deepen their love and connection with each other.
My Tantric sessions are direct physical and emotional experience. Music, the atmosphere of intimacy will bring romantic and erotic feelings to both of you.
I introduce you to the tantric touch, and how to tune into each other’s sensations. During the session you will pass through several stages. I show by way of demonstration, stage by stage, leaving you both at times one-to-one. I will introduce you to massages, to erotic dancing, to channelling energy…
Each couple is different. Each needs a different approach just as in counselling or psychotherapy. My aim is to help them to reach the destination which I call “peace and comfort with each other”. Believe me, sexual excitement is not the main requirement for long lasting love. Peace and comfort create a higher physical arousal in the long run. People cannot be creative when they are overexcited. Peace and comfort opens the door to a world of total freedom, raises your subconscious and leads you to transformation.
Tantric sex has no aim as such, it is like having a “warm bath” but this state is difficult to achieve. In my practice during the sessions a lot of men have realised how much tension and pressure a man holds in his body and passes to his partner. A lot of women eventually saw how a woman can help her partner to relax by leading him. Only when both people are free with experiencing sexual energy flow (same level of arousal, not “burning” level) they start to transform ordinary sex (peak sex) into tantric sex (valley sex).
Fees for tantric sessions - £100/h, min 3 hours
Course of sessions
I have created a course of 4 meetings , 3 hours each meeting.
I will meet you once a month. All 4 sessions would be created for your individual character as a couple. They would be intended to change your attitude to a lot of things in your life which have a reflection on your sexuality.
Your sexual fulfilment is not only your guarantee of a lasting relationship, of the happiness of your children, of an unbreakable and happy marriage, but also it is your lasting youth, good health and longer life. Your sexual fulfilment brings more love to you both.. Love gives you a different outlook on everything around. The world seen through loving eyes is more beautiful, people are kinder and problems seem smaller.
Fees for the course - £1000 (4 meetings, 3 hours each)
My advice: It is better if the woman sees me first for 2-3 hour consultaton or at least speaks to me over the phone.
FAQ for Couples
I have been looking for a female teacher to teach and guide myself and
my wife in the art of tantric sex. Our sex life has become a
little stale and we would like to learn new ways to pleasure each
other and spice things up a bit…
It is difficult to "spice things up” and to “pleasure each other with something new” whatever you try. Tantra is about balance. Tantric sex is the way into tranquillity and peace, a way to relax and sink into the world of love. The longer people live with each other the more they can deepen their connection by having sex. They can reach higher levels of energy flow through relaxation and love of the heart and this will give them pleasure for the body.
We would also like to experience the pleasure of tantric massage and learn how to do it…
Hope, you have read my article “Tantric massage”.
Tantra is an art. Art is never dogma. So each artist is unique because the definition of art is to create something new, never seen before. Tantric massage is massage of a loving heart and sensual touch to bring the partner’s body-soul to ecstatic vibrations of total happiness and comfort. This is like a mother playing with her baby, every time differently, just from her loving heart, just to make the baby feel safe, loved and happy, so tantric massage does to us.
I can teach you a lot about your body and the body of your partner, I can teach you a lot of different stimulation techniques but you can always develop your own specific technique of tantric massage. I will help you to become creative and loving and you will be able to invent massages, not one, but hundreds of them, as many as you like and it will never be the same.
Does tantric massage include the G-spot stimulation ? Can you show us where the G-spot is?
I can show you where this spot is. But, I feel that G-spot’s importance is overestimated. What can any little spot do for love? I believe – nothing. It can do something to trigger your physical excitement. But it does nothing for love. Love can make the whole body into the G-spot. You do not need triggers then. But you need to know about energy centres or healing points. This is different.
Your site seems to offer what we are looking for, which is I guess a cross between a 3 some with emphasis on teaching…
My session are never of the “3 some” kind. Do not confuse me with escort bi-girls. I would never want anybody to touch me in a sexual way as well as I would not touch you to arouse but only to show how to touch. There is no union of three. There are only two halves in nature: male and female, which are meant to be united. But the choice is ultimately yours… I work always fully dressed.
Why do you advise a woman to see or to speak to you first?
If you read my article “The Role of Woman” you would see what I mean. I believe that women can change the world for the better if they would be sexually happy. A lot of them just do not realise how much they are missing if they are not fulfilled as a sexual beings. The sad thing is that they blame their men for this and expect them to make them happy. If a woman meets me one-to-one I will teach her how to open in herself that SOUL potential to love and cherish the man like a baby.
My wife has recently discovered she is bi, but has not really found a woman who knows how to touch a woman, and she would also like instruction on how to pleasure women…
I do not believe in anything that does not follow nature. I do not think that nature intended to create bi, lesbians or gays. Evolution did not do this to any other creatures on Earth except human being. Though we cannot judge people for their sexual choice I personally feel sorry for those who could not achieve the most incredible life happiness of being a Great Woman and Mother and Great Man and Father to be remembered by generations who will come after.
I do not believe in bi-love. I consider this like a drug to escape the sense of failure of being a sexually happy woman in the way nature has created us to be. And this problem could be solved if both partners want it to be. I am here to help.
I never wanted to know how to touch another woman and how to get excited by her touch to me. The warmth and softness of woman’s flesh is something I only love in myself and I want a man to love me for this. I love the strength of a man’s body, his hot and fiery breathing , his muscles around me and hair on his chest against my breast. I love man’s childish trusting soul whatever he thinks about himself. It is the instinct for protection of mothers and children, which women on Earth expressed as a gratitude through making love to their men. I need to feel myself small and gentle against man’s strong nature. And at the same time I love to know that he is in my “little sweet hands” while making love. This is a real pleasure!
I would love to help your wife to learn how to be your wonderful lover but I can not help her to develop her bi-side.
Can you give me some idea of what sort of number of lessons involved to give you enough time to teach us some worthwhile things.
I cannot say how many meetings we would need. I am not sure of the meaning of “worthwhile things” as well. For me, at 49, it would be enough if I could feel happy to go to bed every night with my partner longing for our bodies to be close to each other, our smiles always shining on our faces when we look at each other’s eyes in the morning. We both may or may not reach orgasm, we may pleasure each other by massage or penetration, we may spend three hours making love or just 20 minutes, we may just be listening to music holding each other in our arms, it would not matter to me what we do or for how long. The important thing is that I feel comfortable and free with my man, I feel no shame in doing anything I want to, and he feels the same. This state of freedom, peace and assurance that my partner loves me and is happy with me, the constant 24 hours sweet desire to unite with my partner’s body ( we cannot physically do this!) gives me a sense of fulfilment as a woman, which is very “worthwhile” for me. We can all live like this if we want to.
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