You are young! This is wonderful! Your desire for sex is natural and powerful! You can have sex with someone you don't love to satisfy this desire. If you feel in love you call sex "making love". But again, you can trick yourself into this idea that you are making love because during sex you feel better about yourself. Sex gives you confidence and energy.
But do you know that:
When you have sex you get together with another person basically on a "DNA" level. It is as if you download a database of your sexual partner, a database of his/her life (bad and good things, healthy and unhealthy things) and this information will stay in your body and your psyche forever.
So,
before you get into sexual contact with someone you should ask yourself serious
questions. These questions are:
1. Is it safe and healthy for me and my sexual partner to have sex, physically,
emotionally and mentally?
2. Do I really care about her/him and does she/he care about me?
3. Will I and my sexual partner gain from this sex encounter more feelings
of self respect, confidence and independence?
4. Would I or my sexual partner regret about this moment of sex, feel guilty
or hurt?
If your answerers are "yes", "yes","yes","no"
then you are going to have healthy sex. Both partners
will exchange a positive database. Otherwise, I am sorry for being so hard
in words, you are going to damage yourself and your partner.
A lot of sexual problems such as premature ejaculation, performance anxiety, bad erection, fears and all sorts of emotional difficulties in relationships, come from unhealthy sexual practice at a young age when sex is considered as fun, no matter with whom, no matter when, no matter where.
To overcome sexual problems is not easy, because our sexuality is the most painful and delicate side of the human psyche. To prevent bad sexual choice you need to learn a lot about yourself first, your own sexuality, then develop your life values, and only then you can look for the partner who is suitable for you, who can bring happiness and joy into your life in all its aspects - sexual, emotional, mental.
These days young people start to have sex at a very early age. Not being mature enough they connect with other people through sex and this leads them to a great imbalance in understanding and handling their sexuality. Young men suffer the most. Girls become demanding.. Both parties need knowledge.
I would love to help. I would love to work with you and your girlfriend/boyfriend on any sexual issues using this great teaching of Tantra. Do not worry! I would not ask you to sit in yoga positions or follow eastern rituals described in books on Tantra. Do not read them! Do not read other sites on Tantra where you would see those rituals. The essence of Tantra is the energy, sexual energy, which needs to be understood, mastered and used in a healthy and loving way.
My offer to young people:
1.
If you would like to learn general knowledge about sexual energy, healthy
and long lasting sex, maximum of freedom, relaxation
and pleasure from sex, you can book a workshops for you and for several
of your friends. E-mail me! I do descount for young people.
2.
If you would like to sort personal problems concerning your sexuality you
can book a private consultation.
E-mail
me! For young people I do a discounted fee of £80/h. I advise you to
book the first meeting for two hours. It is best if you come to the meeting
with your sexual partner. The fee would not change. Sex is togetherness. If
you have problems, your partner is involved in them too.